The Danger of Holding Grudges Are we harboring rocks or planting flowers? A good question to ask ourselves. "If we are looking for fault we will find it. If we are looking for good we will find it!" Life is far greater and full of more happiness when we focus on the good and forget about the bad. Someone once said, "We are not perfect. The people around us are not perfect. People do things that annoy, disappoint, and anger. In this mortal life it will always be that way.